My time in Kuala Lumpur, Malaysia was brief, but significant. It marked my first trip outside of the Americas, and it was an eye-opening experience. Kuala Lumpur (KL) is a vibrant, bustling city on the Malay Peninsula, known for its stunning combination of modernity and old-world charm. It’s a place where convenience meets tradition, offering all the amenities one could desire while still holding onto its unique cultural roots.
KL is famous for its expansive and interconnected shopping mall system, so vast that touring these malls offers an almost complete view of the city. These malls are not only massive in size but are also connected by sky bridges, creating an impressive network of retail spaces. At first, they reminded me of malls back home, many of which have struggled due to the rise of online shopping platforms like Amazon. However, as time went on, I realized that holding onto this nostalgia was unnecessary. I soon came to understand that KL, with all its complexity and charm, might not be the right fit for me after all.
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Why was it not the right place for me?
Living in an environment where Islam is predominant presents challenges. This observation is not a critique of Islam or Malaysians. Frankly, they are among the kindest people I’ve met. Just an acknowledgment of the cultural and religious dynamics that influence daily life. For instance, encountering women in burqas on the streets highlighted the pervasive presence of Islam in public life.
KL is a diverse and expansive city, with over 137 languages spoken and various religions practiced. However, Islam remains the dominant religion. Its influence permeates many aspects of daily life, which can be challenging. They will also tell you that English is the dominant language, but take that with a grain of salt.
Malaysia and Islam
One thing I will say about Malaysia, is that it is not whatever you think it is. It is nothing like I thought it would be, and I don’t even think I can explain it, but I can try. For more insights into the role of Islam specifically in Malaysia, you might find these articles helpful:
These resources should provide a deeper understanding of the cultural and religious landscape of Malaysia, which may be helpful for those considering a move there. Because I understand not everyone can just travel around as I can, and seeing it for yourself is the only way to truly understand.
Kuala Lumpur: Southeast Asia Lite
During my time in Malaysia, I adjusted to living in Southeast Asia while surrounded by American amenities. For that, I am grateful. I like to call Malaysia “Southeast Asia for beginners.”
It is the perfect place in which to adjust to Southeast Asian life. English is widely spoken, people are used to seeing foreigners, and there is always something to do. There is also a massive, affordable, safe public transit system which will take you anywhere you’d like to go.
The True Melting Pot
As far as culture goes, Malaysia is incredibly rich and unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. The country is home to an array of ethnic groups, including Chinese, Indian, Malay, and Indigenous peoples. All of whom bring their unique traditions, cultures, and cuisines. One of the fascinating groups is the Chindu people: A blend of Chinese and Indian Hindu heritage, who have their own distinct culture and food. The Chindu community has a vibrant, awesome culture that’s completely different from Malay culture or any other group.
Malaysia’s diversity doesn’t end there—it’s one of the most multicultural countries in the world. It also holds the record for having the most public holidays of any nation. People honor each other’s festivals too,creating a unique atmosphere of inclusivity.
Malaysia is a great place to visit and experience the beauty of diversity. However, Islam is still the dominant religion, and is constantly trying to grow and stamp out all the others. It’s a constant problem, and many of the people I befriended had complaints.
Malaysia and LGBTQ+
One of my favorite places to visit in Kuala Lumpur was a local gay bar. Opening such an establishment in a country where you can be killed for it is pretty punk rock.
This bar, known as “The Secret Garden,” provided a safe and welcoming space for the LGBTQ+ community amidst a complex legal and cultural landscape. To look into LGBTQ+ rights in Malaysia, I’ll share a wiki page, because there is no where else to find this information: en.wikipedia.org
Located in the heart of Kuala Lumpur, is obviously a sanctuary for many, offering entertainment and a sense of belonging. I may not be part of the LGBTQ+ community, but this is still where I made the bulk of my friends. Despite legal risks, venues like this play a role in fostering community and support networks for LGBTQ+ in Malaysia. Its an ongoing battle with Islam there. So if you are a member of the LGBTQ+ community, understand that while you are safe there. There is much to learn, and you are, in essence, traveling back in time. Photos were not allowed at the garden, for understandable reasons. Otherwise I would share them here.
LGBTQ+ are widely safe and accepted here in Siem Reap, and there is nothing to fear. I welcome you and so do the locals.